Self Defense For Women
Self defense is important for anyone and everyone to understand and practice. But I think it is even more important for women to have some kind of self defense plan in place. Men have an advantage over us with not only gender, but size and strength as well. Women are typically viewed as a much easier target, and that is exactly what someone with bad intentions wants, an easy target.
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I personally refuse to be a victim. At one point in my life, I was the victim of domestic violence, and it changed me in many ways. It was at that point that I realized I would never allow anything similar to happen to me again. I always wish that no woman ever has to go through any situation that will victimize them in any way. Which is where I learned ways to protect myself, and exactly what I want to talk about here. I refuse to be a victim, and I hope you do as well.
Safety is a Responsibility!
Safety is not a feeling. It is a state of being, and we all have a personal responsibility to keep ourselves safe. I’ve heard too many people say “I have the right to feel safe.” No, you have a responsibility to be safe and to keep yourself safe. Safety is not a right. It is a responsibility.
Self defense for women is essential. Here are some tools to help protect yourself and defend yourself if needed.
Guns aren’t for everyone, and that is ok. If it isn’t an option for you, please skip ahead to non-lethal options. I will be talking about those as well.
I recommend that everyone, no matter who you are, take a concealed carry course to simply learn about firearms. If you are on the fence about the idea of purchasing a firearm as a means of self defense, please take the time and attend a concealed carry class. Afterwards, talk to the instructor. If they are a good one, they will gladly answer questions and chat with you about options or if it is a good idea for you. The instructor should be teaching you, even after the class, not selling you a gun. Please keep that in mind as well. Find a good local gun shop where the owner enjoys teaching versus selling.
The class isn’t designed to convince you to own a firearm. It is to teach you and give knowledge so you can make informed decisions. Knowledge is power! Use it.
Think about why you want a firearm and what you will be doing with it. Is it for home defense, personal defense when out in public, or something to keep in your vehicle. Is it something to conceal or keep in plain view for easy access?
The one thing I always tell others to think about is the consequences of buying a firearm. It can certainly save your life, or others in many situations. The question is, are you willing to take another life to save your own? Think long and hard about that and come to terms with the fact that may happen if you choose to own firearms. I always hope I am never faced with that choice. But I am responsible for my own safety and coming home every night too.
If you do make the choice to own a firearm, practice, practice, practice with it! Get comfortable with it and learn to use it with the same ease and confidence that you change a diaper or load a dishwasher. Please do not purchase it and be scared of it and leave it in a dark corner somewhere. That will not save your life.
Knives are easily concealed, don’t require a permit, and far cheaper than firearms. I personally think everyone should keep a pocket knife with them at all times because there are a variety of times when they can come in handy, and many scenarios that have nothing to do with self defense. But they can save your life.
My favorite is the Benchmade Mini Barrage. The reason I prefer this is it fits well in my hand. If you are looking for a larger knife, the Barrage is an excellent full size option. Benchmade is an incredible company that is located in Oregon and the warranty they have on their products is the best out there.
Pepper spray is an excellent non-lethal option for self defense. It is something I have carried for well over ten years now, and always keep a canister in my purse and in my vehicle. Sabre Red is the one and only brand I have ever carried. The reason for this is that it is recommended by every single law enforcement officer I have known in my life, and that isn’t a small number.
These are loud and obnoxious when turned on and ready to use. That can deter a crime right there, and I like that! The one from Sabre fits easily in my hand and can fit into my pockets as well. They are not expensive either. This is a wonderful option for times when you have to be out in the dark, like to walk to a car or take the dog outside at 4am.
I like this mini baseball bat for the purpose of home defense, and I have bought it for several other women in my circle as a great option for self defense when they are at home. They are lightweight and seriously hurt. This is a good option for tiny women who have health issues and may not have the dexterity to hold and aim a firearm.
Some people also keep these in their vehicle. I do not because my vehicle eats everything that isn’t in a confined space or nailed down. Since I do not have a specific place to keep it, it isn’t a viable option for me.
Self Defense Classes
Self defense classes are a wonderful tool because it gives you real life scenarios and how to respond to them. Weapons are great, but they may not always be a viable option. Sometimes the only thing to do is to fight your way out of a situation and get away. For as much as I prepare for everything, my options may be limited for a variety of reasons. I’ve said it once, but it is worth repeating. Knowledge is power. The more tools you have in your tool belt, the better off you will be.
I feel like common sense is so often overlooked as a tool to keeping us safe. Our instincts tell us when something may not be quite right. It’s like meeting someone and instantly disliking them without a single valid reason. It is simply a feeling. Something in our bodies are yelling red flags. Same thing happens in situations and places as well. Listen to that feeling and don’t ignore it.
Please don’t ever think “it won’t happen to me” because that is exactly when it will. Don’t put yourself in unsafe situations simply because you don’t think anything will ever happen. Practice common sense and defensive techniques to ensure it doesn’t happen to you.
Always be mindful of your surroundings. Situational Awareness will take you a very long way in staying safe. Know your circle of friends and family. I have several friends that I know I don’t have to worry about safety when I am with them. Either because they are protective of me, they carry weapons, or they just don’t leave me in vulnerable situations. I have one friend who will walk to where I park and walk me back to where we are going every time. I always know I am safe when I am out with him and his family.
Some friends don’t even realize we’ve left another friend in the car to go into a store and they aren’t with us. I don’t like this, but I can’t stop that mindset. What I can do is be aware of that and adapt how I approach meeting with this person in a potentially unsafe area or at night. Awareness is a very big deal.
Keep others safe too
Keep the safety of others in mind as well. I am the person who takes head counts when I am out in a group. Or I will offer to walk someone to their vehicle if they are alone or splitting off from the group. I followed friends out of an area last week that I had no clue where I was until I reached a main street. At a stop light, they checked in with me to make sure I was set to get home from there or if I needed more direction. There was no splitting up until they were sure I was safe and on my way home. I also strive to be that kind of person as well.
Safety is always a big concern, and I don’t limit it to my own. I want everyone to not only feel safe, but to keep themselves safe.
What is the best choice for you?
As you are thinking about all of the options I have listed above, consider what works best for you and your situation. Is there anything that would prevent you from owning weapons? Mental health issues, physical limitations or a disability.
Guns may not be a good idea in those cases, and that is ok. Start thinking about what is a viable alternative for you and your specific situation. I talked about the baseball bat not being a good option for me to keep in my vehicle. What is a good option instead? Pepper spray is a good one, because it is compact in size and I can easily access it without it getting lost and eaten by my vehicle. Only you can decide what works best for you though. Self defense for women is a choice we all need to make.
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